Help! I Have an Almost Psychopath in My Life
Recognizing an Almost Psychopath is the first step. Next, try to document the person's behavior and get him or her help â€” but realize that the situation may never improve, and you may just need to walk away.
Here’s what to do if the Almost Psychopath is …
Your child: New research suggests that psychopathic traits may be found in kids as young as five. Engage with your child about the behavior youâ€™re witnessing and set firm but reasonable limits. Visit your pediatrician for a diagnosis and help with finding the appropriate therapy for your child.
Your spouse: Tell your partner that you need to have a talk, and then proceed based on the response. Questions like â€śWhat do you mean?â€ť provide an opening to express your concerns. A â€śHow dare youâ€ť is significantly less promising. If the relationship is broken, confide in someone you trust about how best to get out.
Your boss: Talk to coworkers or HR about whatâ€™s going on. Frame your issues not as personal attacks, but as concerns that affect the company at large (involving, say, productivity or morale). File a complaint with documentation, if possible. When all else fails, dust off your rĂ©sumĂ© and start looking for a new job.
Your friend: You can defriend some-one on Facebook, but itâ€™s much harder in real life. Do it subtly by not returning e-mails or phone calls, or more overtly by saying, â€śIâ€™m not interested in spending time with you.â€ť
Your parent: An adult child should call out a parent for abusive, demanding, hurtful, or duplicitous behavior. Say something like â€śMaybe you donâ€™t realize it, but when you say and do those things it really hurts, and it canâ€™t continue. If you have a problem or somethingâ€™s upsetting you, letâ€™s talk about it, because I would really hate to lose our relationship.â€ť In extreme cases, breaking off all contact may be required. (Keep in mind that medical issues â€” medications, dementia, or depression â€” could be behind any personality changes.)
Source URL: http://www.bostonmagazine.com/2012/06/help-psychopath-life/