How the Moultons Made Peace with the War

Mohammed's stance on the war positions him to the right of everyone in the Moulton family, including, as it turns out, Seth. In the documentary No End in Sight, which won a special jury prize at Sundance last year, Seth dispels any doubt that his parents raised the independent thinker they hoped for. Calmly but bitingly, he criticizes virtually every level of the U.S. government for its failures in Iraq, particularly what he perceives as a lack of will at the top.

"The United States of America, as an entire nation, could be doing a lot more, and a lot better, in Iraq," Seth writes in an e-mail. "I'm not talking military mistakes. I'm talking about things like the lack of commitment of the nation—the time it takes to produce up-armored [vehicles], the forcing of so few to bear the burdens of so many, all that stuff. I still believe that if we can make this work, it has the potential to be a good thing for the long-term future of the Middle East. But there's no question that it will be difficult to succeed, and the war, in the meantime, has probably made things worse." What keeps him coming back, aside from his commitment to his fellow Marines, is a sense of responsibility to the Iraqi people. He believes the United States made a promise to them, a promise it has yet to fulfill, but on which he personally refuses to default.

For a long time, the Moultons had trouble comprehending why Seth had chosen to enlist, and his ambivalence about the war only made it more difficult to reconcile. They came of political age in an era when if you opposed the war, you did everything in your power to stop it. But ultimately, the hawkish Mohammed has helped nudge Tom and Lynn closer to an understanding, and even an appreciation, of what Seth is doing.

When Mohammed moved in with them, Lynn and Tom began hearing his stories about what he had endured growing up, stories similar to the ones Seth had heard during his Iraq tours. And they could not miss his distress over not being able to return to his native country. They still don't support the war. But they have found a way, through Mohammed, to come to peace with their son's determination to do his part in Iraq to make things right. "I'm very proud that Seth feels this obligation," says Lynn, "and is willing to make a personal sacrifice to uphold it."

Last December, Seth surprised his family when he arrived home for a two-week stay. He had put in for a Christmas leave months earlier, but decided not to tell anyone, since so often such requests get bungled in the bureaucratic process. He called Eliza first, and had her secretly pick him up at the airport. When they got to the house, Tom heard the car pull into the driveway, and met them at the door. Seth wrapped him in a tight embrace, then went inside to find his mother napping, waking her with a hug before going into Cyrus's room to greet a shocked Mohammed. He got hold of Cyrus in Portland, who traveled to Boston straight away.

Two days later, sitting with Cyrus in the den, Seth said he was thrilled to be back in Marblehead. He looked exhausted. Despite the warmth and comfort of his home, it was clear that part of him was almost constantly thinking about Iraq. He confessed to feeling guilty about having left behind Ann and Alex, the fellow Marines serving with him in Qadisiyah, and the people with whom he has spent nearly every waking minute over the past eight months.

It was subtle, but Seth seemed humbler than the 22-year-old who had chided his Harvard classmates. For most of his life, he had pursued his own goals on his own terms, almost invariably with success, but in Iraq he'd come up against intractable, insurmountable realities. In an earlier e-mail, he admitted to changing a great deal in the course of his service. "The Marine Corps has been very good for me, really in countless ways," he wrote. He said it had made him "a much better leader, a better manager, all kinds of things like that," but it was more than that. "I think I'm also a better person," he wrote, and less impetuous.

Lynn, not surprisingly, was just ecstatic to have Seth home. "For two entire weeks," she said, "we have only the worries that all parents have—not the ‘our son is in Iraq' worry, too."