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The Fall of Joan

Lying hurt, alone, and crumpled on a Boston sidewalk, Joan Kennedy had become the latest victim in the Kennedy family saga of tragedy and pain.

August 2005
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IT WAS THE BLOOD that caught the attention of a passerby, a streak running down one side of the woman's face in a long red tear as she tried to hoist herself off the Beacon Street sidewalk. She looked like a disoriented street person who had wandered into the Back Bay from the nearby Boston Common. "She said she was okay, but she did not look okay," says Constance Bacon, who shielded the helpless woman from the rain as they waited for an ambulance. "She was conscious. She had just hit her head pretty hard. She knew that she had fallen and she tried to get up and she couldn't. So I just waited until the ambulance came. I had no idea who it was, that it was anything special."  

It took little more than a day for Bacon—and the rest of the world—to find out that the woman she had helped had a last name recognized across the globe, that this bloody and disheveled person was the former model once nicknamed "the Dish" by her brother-in-law, the late President John F. Kennedy. As with other members of the Kennedy clan, notoriety was nothing new to her. Her fall, which resulted in a concussion and a broken shoulder, was the latest incident in a long and very public struggle Joan Bennett Kennedy has waged against alcoholism.

"No, she did not appear drunk," Bacon said repeatedly afterward. But a source close to Kennedy's three children says Kennedy's blood-alcohol level was well above the legal limit when it was tested at the hospital that night. The limits of her ability to look after her own affairs had also been exceeded, setting the stage for a battle worthy of any of the political or media skirmishes in which the Kennedy's have engaged over the years.

JOAN KENNEDY HAD TAKEN TO DRINKING in secret in the months before her accident, and her drugs of choice were mouthwash and vanilla extract. Both contained enough alcohol to assuage her cruel thirst without producing the rank odor of hard booze. A caretaker complained that Kennedy, 68, had begun locking her out of the Beacon Street condominium where the one-time presidential in-law lives. (She also has a waterfront house in Hyannis Port.) The caretaker told Kennedy's son Patrick, a congressman from Rhode Island, about the large quantities of vanilla extract his mother was bringing home from the market. "She said she had taken up baking," the friend of the Kennedy children says. "She would tell the caretakers she would meet them somewhere and never show up. She'd try to lose them."

Suspicious amounts of mouthwash vanished from the bathroom. And there were Kennedy's frequent absences from the Alcoholics Anonymous meetings she attended during periods of sobriety. In the world of AA, identities are closely guarded, and the shapely older woman in the baseball cap and expensive ensembles was no different there from the homeless, disoriented drunks still reeking of alcohol who would wander in from the Park Street T station, lured by free coffee and cookies. In the meetings she was no longer a Kennedy, but merely "Joan," a fellow alcoholic with a soul-sapping disease.

Booze does not discriminate. Still, Kennedy had a lot of people fooled. She cleaned up well and continued to travel in elite circles. In fact, her close friend, philanthropist Ann Gund, insists even now that Kennedy had been staying sober. Kennedy's doctors do not agree. The vanilla extract and mouthwash she apparently guzzled on a regular basis caused enough damage to her kidneys that her children say she was within a year of needing dialysis to stay alive. That, and the spill she took on Beacon Street, amounted to much more than just another embarrassing bout with the bottle. The kidney problems, the concussion, and the broken shoulder buoyed an argument Kennedy's children had been making for some time: Their mother was incapable of taking care of herself.


 
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God Cares for you, and Love you, Joan.
Posted by Anonymous | May. 20, 2008 at 3:46 PM
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5/20/08, I understand what "pressures" can do to a person, and I am so very sorry for the pain and suffering of this woman. I pray that she receives strength to sustain herself, and that she will come to the knowledge of our True and Loving God. That realization will be a blessing to her.
Thinking of Joan
Posted by Anonymous | May. 21, 2008 at 2:18 AM
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Joan must feel devastated, as we all are, after Ted Kennedy's cancer diagnosis. I pray that she will find her inner strength to get through this crisis. The media have ignored her up to this point, but perhaps that is better for her.
One Day At A Time
Posted by Anonymous | May. 21, 2008 at 5:50 AM
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I am a recovering alcoholic as is Joan. My prayers go out to you Joan. I as well, I have had sober times but then again, my disease progresses and I have ended up in the street also. You are not alone. My prayers are with you. Get back to meetings. You will find true love & compassion there. Peace be with you....
What Goes Around Comes Around
Posted by Anonymous | May. 21, 2008 at 11:51 AM
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Joan Kennedy has nothing to feel devastated about. Her cruel,narcissistic husband brought shame and humiliation upon her, which in my opinion ,greatly contributed to her current battle with alcoholism.This should be her wake up call that she has does nothing wrong and that life is too short to let another person rob you of what you deserve. Get out there and start to live!
support
Posted by Anonymous | May. 22, 2008 at 7:20 AM
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Joan, you've lived a busy life with many struggles along the way, one thing you have proven is that you are a strong woman. Hold on to your family as your concrete support, it will hold you through the most difficult times, remember they are the ones that love you and want the best for you. Be strong, believe in yourself, and cherish those closest, you can beat this - you have before. Put yourself first, before anything else. Always in my prayers.
Peace for Joan
Posted by Anonymous | May. 23, 2008 at 1:22 PM
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People drink obsessively because they are alcoholics, not because of tragedy. Many people experience tragedy who don't drink over it. Family history is the biggest factor in alcoholism. Tragedy and chaos comes from that. Sometimes families become comfortable with the chaos and end up continuing to create it, often marry into it as well. Recovery is putting down the drink and stopping the chaos.
Caring without judging
Posted by Anonymous | May. 24, 2008 at 6:44 AM
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One thing I know to be true is that we are all more alike than we are different. Human frailty knows no boundaries. We all see everyday that wealth and celebrity do not make us immune to pain and suffering. We may not all have the same addictions, but we all suffer the pain and humiliation of our own weaknesses. Whether our choice of drug be alcohal, tobacco, food, over spending, over working, etc., we all have our weaknesses. All we really have is one another. Forgiveness, love, and acceptance can bring together. I wish you peace.
A Very Brave Woman
Posted by Anonymous | Jun. 25, 2008 at 2:10 PM
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Joan, I am praying for you and I want you to know that you will be okay. You have been through so much with that @#$%^ex-husband of yours. He did not deserve you.
Stay Firm
Posted by gabriel | Aug. 9, 2008 at 2:27 PM
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Joan, I am thinking of you! Ted is a FOOL for taking you for granted. He never deserved you as a wife. You take care of yourself.
Mrs. Kennedy
Posted by Anonymous | Aug. 11, 2008 at 12:20 PM
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The members of AA are watching to see how you handle this latest tragedy. Acceptance is the key.....
God Bless You
Posted by Anonymous | Aug. 25, 2008 at 10:16 PM
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I am humbled and deeply moved by the spectrum of your life and experience Joan. Bless you as you continue to move to be who you are meant to be. I believe the uncanny sadness and pain you have known will ultimately combine with your true beauty of heart and the great gifts you came in with to show you who you, at last, really are. You are beautiful. Keep fighting the good fight.
God bless you Joan
Posted by Anonymous | Aug. 25, 2008 at 10:29 PM
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I am humbled and deeply moved by the spectrum of your life and experience Joan. Bless you as you continue to move to be who you are meant to be. I believe the uncanny sadness and pain you have known will ultimately combine with your true beauty of heart and the great gifts you came in with to show you who you, at last, really are. You are beautiful. Keep fighting the good fight.
Stand Alone
Posted by Audrey | Sep. 4, 2008 at 5:58 PM
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To bad you don't have Jackie still with you as she was more in your league than the Kennedys. Do as she with you did and use your God given talents to help you. People of your background and caliber weer not raised in the Kennedy fashion. Try your best to be Joan and God Bless You.
You'll be okay.
Posted by Anonymous | Sep. 12, 2008 at 1:44 PM
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It was never Joan that was wrong it was that rotten excuse for a husband. He got away with murder. That is something that she has been living with her whole life. He could care less,but God has a plan for him, and then God will make her whole again.And as far as her children, I wouldn't trust them as far as I can throw.
God bless and protect this wonderful mother and woman.
Posted by Serafim | Sep. 19, 2008 at 8:59 AM
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I cannot express how, since I was a child, I have admired this compassionate and lovely woman. It is a joy to know that her children are so deeply devoted to her; after all the inexpressible sorrow and betrayal she endured, she turned to the beauty of music, and caring for the poor. In spite of the pain of her illness, she continued to give. May God and the Blessed Virgin Mary always bless and protect this wonderful mother and woman, and her devoted children.
Empathy
Posted by Joanne | May. 25, 2009 at 6:15 PM
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I feel such empathy for Joan Kennedy.Who wouldn't suffer after having endured all that she has through her marriage: a stillborn child - several miscarriages- and another failed pregnancy after her husband's reckless Chappaquiddick incident ? All the while...expected to play the Kennedy game of pretense. And yes . . Jackie also suffered similar sorrows and bore them well - with great strength. But it's unfair to compare the two women.They are individual people. I am so deeply moved at the poignant and sad outcome of Joan's amazing life.

Posted by Anonymous | Jul. 5, 2009 at 4:09 PM
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I feel for Joan's children. Isn't it enough she drank while her children were young. Let her look at the scars on each of her children. She continues to torment her family yet claims she loves them.

Posted by PEGGY | Aug. 7, 2009 at 10:04 PM
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GOD BLESS YOU JOAN, COURAGE
CHRIST LOVE
Posted by PEGGY | Aug. 7, 2009 at 10:11 PM
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JOAN,YOU ARE LOVED BY JESUS AND ALL OF US WHO TURNED TO DRINK BECAUSE WE COULD NOT SEEM TO HANDLE THE HARD TIMES OF OUR LIVES. FEAR NOT KID! OUR LORD AND THE BLESSED MOTHER IS WITH US. AS JESUS , HIMSELF SAID , "THE OPINION OF OTHERS MEAN "NOTHING TO ME" HE JUDGES US NOT ANY HUMAN. PRAY FOR ME AND I SHALL PRAY FOR YOU . MAY THE BLESSED MOTHER HOLD YOU IN HER ARMS. LOVE PEG QUINN
It's Time to Help Yourself
Posted by Mary | Aug. 9, 2009 at 5:29 PM
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Ms Joan Kennedy, you have been in rehab, you're involved with AA, and you have the full support of your children. It's now time for you to want to stop this vicious cycle you're putting yourself and your family through. Until you decide that you're sick and tired of being sick and tired, there's nothing anyone can do to help you with continuted, long-lasting sobriety. The decision is yours. I hope you make it this time.
be well
Posted by brandi | Aug. 13, 2009 at 4:26 PM
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just want to show some love and be a good person again.
Hold you're head high. You are a remarkable inspiration to many!!
Posted by Anonymous | Aug. 14, 2009 at 2:55 PM
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Joan, we met in 1992. You've come a long way, endured more than most people should have to, and I'm sure you were a great comfort to many today. Hold your head high and keep doing what you're doing. God bless you and your entire family! (I'm sorry for the loss of your friend Eunice; ask her to give you strength now).
Stay Strong
Posted by Anonymous | Aug. 14, 2009 at 3:02 PM
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Congratulations on nine years. You looked wonderful today. I'm sure you were a great comfort to those who love you. Keep up the good work. So sorry for the loss of your friend.

Posted by Jim | Aug. 14, 2009 at 3:24 PM
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she seems like a nice woman, who's been through a lot. i do have sympathy for her and wish her well But at the same time, read the comments for anyone else with 4 DUIs - is there any compassion? Or pure hate? Do we really know anything about the other persion other than that they arent famous?
Proud of Joan Kennedy
Posted by Kay | Aug. 15, 2009 at 7:06 PM
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Joan, you are an inspiration to all of us. I commend you for surviving your marriage to that awful person Ted. He should have respected you more and realized what beauty and grace you had and yes, kindness too. You looked absolutely great at Eunice's funeral all dressed in white! Keep up the fight Joan, you are so much better than that poor excuse of a man you sadly had to call your husband. God bless you, please stay sober, life is great, give it a chance! So sorry about your good friend Eunice, I have a feeling she believed very much in you, don't let her down!
Joan Kennedy
Posted by Anonymous | Aug. 16, 2009 at 7:08 AM
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I saw Joan on tv at Eunice Shriver funeral and thought she looked wonderful. Best wishes to you Joan, your life has not been easy.

Posted by Anonymous | Aug. 16, 2009 at 8:55 PM
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Joan you are in my thoughts and prayers during this difficult time with the loss of your friend Eunice and Ted's declining health. Be strong and trust in God's love for you!
I am thinking of you today...
Posted by Anne | Aug. 26, 2009 at 1:00 AM
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You've been to heck and back.......you loved with all your heart..... and it got broken... you felt your life had ended......and had to watch everyone else's go on...as if yours never mattered.....BUT you are wrong...you have always been remembered.....and we have understood your pain....DON'T LET IT DEFEAT YOU...ydu are beautiful and intelligent...PASS IT ON !!!!and ON...and ON!!!!!! respectfully, an admirerer
death of her ex-husband, Ted Kennedy
Posted by Anonymous | Aug. 26, 2009 at 1:44 AM
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Remembering you at this time and hoping you are doing well.
Re: her ex-husband's death
Posted by Anonymous | Aug. 26, 2009 at 1:48 AM
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Remembering you on this difficult day for you and your family. You are brave and have grace.
Joan the classiest and best Kennedy of all
Posted by val | Aug. 26, 2009 at 1:49 AM
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Joan remains the best wife and mom married to a man whose roving eye caused the death of Mary Jo Joan knew Ted wasn't going to swim so well to save his life if he was that drunk so she had to carry the secret it may have been murder of a pregnant female. JOAN YOU WERE THE CLASSIEST OVER JACKIE AND ETHEL WHO RODE THE MEN WELL but you Joan were the most innocent and honest and Ted stole your life. Today live and write and draw for there is still time for your talent to shine. A lot of us love you best!
Father Dan Walsh
Posted by Carole | Aug. 26, 2009 at 3:55 AM
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Do you remember him? I pray that you have peace, and learn what fills the void in your life. IN Christ's love..
The Grace of God
Posted by Anonymous | Aug. 26, 2009 at 5:44 AM
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For those of us who have been blessed to find ourselves in recovery we know we can get through anything and hold our heads high. You were the first person I thought of when I heard of Sen. Kennedy's death. With a recovery program we have no excuse to drink - we have the tools and support to get through anything one day at a time. God Bless
stay strong
Posted by sharon | Aug. 26, 2009 at 6:35 AM
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ahhhh, just another example of how strong women are.
Ted's Passing
Posted by eileen | Aug. 26, 2009 at 7:21 AM
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I know many memories, good and bad and all painful must be resurrected now. You are in my prayers and not forgotten. Stay strong.
Thoughts and prayers
Posted by Anonymous | Aug. 26, 2009 at 8:10 AM
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My husband and I named our first daughter Kara, now 29. It was very unique at the time, but we chose it due to the fact that your first child was given this beautiful name and our continual respect and admiration for you and your family. May God continue to walk with all of you.
God Bless you Joan
Posted by Cynthia | Aug. 26, 2009 at 8:10 AM
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You are in my heart and prayers at this time. I might have been young back then but I understood you. Please know you are being thought about at this time by many. Much love to you!
One day at a time
Posted by | Aug. 26, 2009 at 8:47 AM
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During the next few days you will be revisited by memories of the past. Remember your higher power and repeat the Serenity prayer over and over to guide you spiritually. Keep coming back, it works if you work it.
Joan, Keep up the Great work, Remember the best of times and that will give you continued strength. I lived and loved massachusetts for 50 years and am reconnected with this news today. I quickly searched to see how you were fairing and am pleased to rea
Posted by Nance | Aug. 26, 2009 at 8:51 AM
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Thoughts and Prayers
Posted by Steven | Aug. 26, 2009 at 8:56 AM
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Just a note to let you know there are millions of Americans who understand your challenges. Stay true to your heart. You are part of my prayers this day. There will be both good and tough memories. Chose the happy ones and they will keep you strong.
True Class
Posted by Claudette | Aug. 26, 2009 at 9:12 AM
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You have all that you need inside of you to prevail at this time. God Bless You.
You are precious to God, Joan.
Posted by Anonymous | Aug. 26, 2009 at 9:23 AM
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Dear Joan, I thought of you immediately today. May you be comforted in knowing how very precious you are to the Father. He loves you; He gave His Son for you; "/for God so loved the world (yes, you, Joan), that He gave His only begotten Son, that all who believe in Him might be saved." (John 3;16. He is there; He is not silent; you are not alone. May God give you a special sense of His wonderful presence and draw you very close to Him.
Edward Kennedy
Posted by Anonymous | Aug. 26, 2009 at 1:17 PM
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I am not sad on the day when Edward Kennedy's death was announced. I was in High School when Mary Jo Kopechne was left in a car all night by Mr. Kennedy to die. He could have gotten help from the 1st cottage he passed where the lights were still on, he didn't! In my opinion, I think it is morally uncomprehensible that the press would present him as the hero of the age. In the light of Marilyn Monroe's death the night before she was to hold a news conference to tell the world about her illicit relationship as reported with both Bobby, and J.F.K. In my opinion, her death, and Mary Jo Kopechne's were not an accident or an overdose. How quickly the world creates its hero's, and forgets their congressional record to show their passion for murders, the unborn, their ex wives thrown to the curb, their girlfriends they used along the way that aren't even being mentioned OR aren't even reported. We who lived during that time will never forget what we really thought of the Kennedy's and their e
Edward Kennedy
Posted by Liz | Aug. 26, 2009 at 1:31 PM
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Edward, so he has passed to his eternal reward. My bible tells me that those that commit murder, who don't admit it, and repent of it, will burn in hell. Along with Mary Jo, and Marilyn Monroe, I wonder if you ever did repent for seeing them eliminated from your life. I remember the day it was reported as if it was yesterday! All I can say is that whatever political power you had here, doesn't apply there before the judgement throne of God. It is only through the shed Blood of Jesus Christ and the admitting of our sins, and asking him to remove them from our heart that we gain entrance to heaven. If you didn't do this, but, I hope you did, I am sure one of the tortures of hell is to see all your illegal activities run before you as a movie, 24 hours a day. As well as all the babies that were allowed to be murdered through abortion for every law you passed that took away their lives as well. I wish you luck, huck! None of us deserve forgiveness, but, Jesus was there all those 77 year
Free Joan Kennedy!
Posted by Anonymous | Aug. 26, 2009 at 1:41 PM
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Free Joan Kennedy!
Posted by Anonymous | Aug. 26, 2009 at 1:45 PM
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May the death of the person who enslaved you bring you peace....
peace and comfort
Posted by Anonymous | Aug. 26, 2009 at 5:30 PM
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As a fellow member of AA with nearly 30 years of sobriety I offer you comfort and prayers. The past is gone. Live and enjoy today. Sincerely
Joan, stop letting him take away your life. He stands before God now and he will not be able to escape or hide from the truths of his life. You must find a way to get your life back, repair the damage your drinking has caused your children and be the wom
Posted by | Aug. 26, 2009 at 6:05 PM
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Pray for grace and understanding.
Posted by Anonymous | Aug. 26, 2009 at 6:25 PM
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Joan, My thoughts go to you and your family. It is never easy to lose your first love and deal with all you have gone through. I pray you will have grace and understanding and know that other people go through what you are and have gone through. Senator Kennedy will always be revered with wonderful thoughts and great memories. Remember, you and your children were a part of this great legacy.
Joan Kennedy
Posted by Nancy | Aug. 26, 2009 at 6:57 PM
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Joan, you are a beautiful person who was unfairly sentenced to a life of hell by the evil Teddy Kennedy and his family. May your faith in God free you from that prison and the the evils you endured at the hands of Teddy. I know he is the father of your children, but he was an immoral, dishonest and evil person. May he spend his eternity as you spent your life with him and because of him.
Joan Kennedy
Posted by Anonymous | Aug. 26, 2009 at 6:59 PM
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I am so sorry that sad things have happened to you - all in public glare - it is your children my heart goes out to, 2 have survived cancer at young ages, 1 gets regular help for his substance abuse, the children of alcoholics are the ones that suffer, the constant worry and anxiety of having a parent who drinks out of control at times is unbearable. It is time to put the past where it belongs - no more excuses - you have 3 children - who I am sure also suffer- either quit alcohol - with all the recources available and yourself, or don't quit, but stop using other people as an excuse, like most people on earth you have had good times and bad times, accept the good and don't dwell on the bad.
Joan
Posted by Gilda | Aug. 26, 2009 at 7:27 PM
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I immediately thought of you today and hope you are fairing well..You deserve the best..God Bless
Forgiveness
Posted by Leon | Aug. 26, 2009 at 7:29 PM
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I am always stunned by how apparently devoid of charity and forgiveness so-called "Christians" so often are. This isn't about Ted, this is about you. You have to find the strength within to endure and to forgive everyone around you and yourself. Hang tough.
Time Heals All
Posted by Tom | Aug. 26, 2009 at 7:41 PM
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This to shall pass. Stay in the now and you are not alone. You are loved my dear friend.
Joan I am so sorry
Posted by Melony | Aug. 26, 2009 at 8:08 PM
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Joan, you know things and have seen things that none of us will ever know...I care..and I wish you all the happiness that GOD has to offer you...I am sorry that you had to go through this
Bless you, Joan
Posted by Jan | Aug. 26, 2009 at 8:20 PM
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So very many of us have always remained so very supportive of you. We always will.
Here's to those who wish you elll, all the rest can go to hell
Posted by Kevin | Aug. 26, 2009 at 8:28 PM
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As a hardcore conservative, I never agreed with your husband's positions. But I hope you read this. As an American, and a Veteran, I wish you the best. Conservative or Liberal, we all live in the same world. May God bless you.
Joan Kennedy
Posted by Sylvia | Aug. 26, 2009 at 8:34 PM
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Among the Kennedy women you deserve our understanding and compassion the most. You are gifted and loved. Don't let negative thoughts tell you otherwise. Trust yourself and make each day count. Your children are your greatest blessings. You may think they are too strict but they have your best interests at heart. They love you and they are your greatest blessings. I admire and respect you. I know you will have the strength and grace to face life's challenges. May God keep you in the palm of His hand and away from harm. Be happy.
my mother-in-law's thumbnail of Sen. Kennedy
Posted by Anonymous | Aug. 26, 2009 at 9:45 PM
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"Luz de la calle,....Oscuridad a la casa"......he was light to the street...and darkness to his house... Ask Joan

Posted by | Aug. 26, 2009 at 10:44 PM
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May God bless you and your family and give you strength. God blessed you with gifts and loving children and I pray for healing and love in your lives.
Step 2 ..a power greater than myself CAN restore me to sanity.
Posted by Musette | Aug. 27, 2009 at 1:00 AM
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Joan, Pray to St Jude .Despair is the work of the dEvil.Cherish your children .Remember the prayer Thank you for what you 've given me thank you fo what you took away (Ted) and for what you have left me and for what you shielded me from.Put the plug in the jug and staple on your butt and go sit in meetings.Also read about the OXFORD GROUP.Musette (New Orleans)
Be Encouraged Joan . . .
Posted by Brenda | Aug. 27, 2009 at 2:22 AM
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There is a song on Youtube "Encourage Yourself" by Donald Lawrence and the Tri-City Singers. Please listen to it. God will work it out for you.
I Believe...
Posted by Linda | Aug. 27, 2009 at 7:31 AM
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Joan, You have suffered so much in your life... You DESERVE happiness! It is okay to be Happy. Let Go, Let God... Live and Find Happiness!
hypocrites
Posted by Anonymous | Aug. 27, 2009 at 7:36 AM
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all these fire & brimstone, "god will judge him" posts from the self-righteous who spend their lives judging others. look in the freaking mirror - that is the ONLY person you are fit to judge.
You are not alone
Posted by Cathy | Aug. 27, 2009 at 8:24 AM
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Joan, This will be a trying time for you. A lot of things will be said about your past failings. Remember, the past is the past, the present is today and the good things you do. I remember seeing you on T.V. when I was a teenager, and I so wanted to look like you. I also suffer from alcoholism and have 3 kids (8 1/2 yrs sober),came from an Irish Catholic alcoholic family, married a man that was not only physically abusive, but a womanizer too and suffered tragedies as well. However, most of them was when I was sober (losing my leg, health problems). I've learned "it is all in God's hands" and I can't change anything, but to accept it. Hold your head up high and talk to people in the program (a sponsor). You can prevail and be the inspiration you have always been!! Hopefully, one day we can meet, if I ever get to Boston. We have a lot in common. God Bless you, you are in my prayers.
fatal disease
Posted by Anonymous | Aug. 27, 2009 at 9:59 AM
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Every person should be made to read this to understand alcoholism. It is not an ex husband or people that cause alcoholism. It the disease itself. It's a tragedy and much compassion and support is needed.
You still have the MUSIC !
Posted by Leigh | Aug. 27, 2009 at 11:39 AM
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You have your beautiful classical music and no one can ever take that from you. Music is a gift to the soul. As a classical musician, I know that, too. Ted Kennedy and that family could take alot from you, but that is one thing they could not. He is no hero of mine because of his support of abortion and, of course, his non committment to you, but YOU have always remained, despite the drinking, a gentle and loving lady who has tried to survive with a disease and much hearbreak from a dishonorable man. You honestly have done well with all that you have produced. God Bless you and God bless your children for all they do for you. And yes, we will leave it to God to judge the man behind the unbiblical laws he was involved in.
You are a beautiful lady!
Posted by Patti | Aug. 27, 2009 at 5:14 PM
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Joan, I am thinking of you at this devastating time of Ted Kennedy's passing. Please be strong for all of us who need you and your beautiful soul. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Take heart dear Joan.
That sweet, beautiful girl is still inside...
Posted by Anonymous | Aug. 27, 2009 at 6:23 PM
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I read this feeling guilty -- how would i feel if it were about my mother, sister, myself? I remember Ted Kennedy's beautiful wife...and all these years have wondered about her and had a kind thought -- I could not imagine what it must have been like to have been married to him through "it all" -- esp. Chappaquiddick. Somehow, it's the wives who seem to end up being destroyed or suffering terribly as a result of their husband's infidelities and stupidity. Ted seemed to have found his calling --and I pray that beautiful Joan will, too. Perhaps, somehow, Ted's death will finally free her -- and she will find a way to beat the disease and finish the rest of her life on a much happier, more peaceful note. The Kennedy's have ruined a lot of women's lives...I hope that "the dish" will find the beauty and strength inside herself to rise above and overcome...
I suggest psychedelic help
Posted by Julie | Aug. 27, 2009 at 6:26 PM
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I know it sounds strange, but in the 1950's, this form of therapy was so effective, that even Bill W. himself suggested that AA endorse it. Unfortunately, Tim Leary then sullied the therapy. Maybe contact one of the MD's curreently doing authorized MDMA or psilocybin research?
I am deeply moved by these comments...
Posted by Anonymous | Aug. 27, 2009 at 6:32 PM
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I just wanted to say that I started reading the comments, steeling myself for the awful, mean, cruel and vicious remarks I expected to find. What a joy to find so much love, compassion, understanding and encouragement! This is what I wanted to offer to Joan. Though a total stranger, her beauty, strength and dignity in the face of the most awful humiliation is something I remember from adolescence. Joan, these comments make it obviously that thousands of people still have a great deal of affection for you and we do feel that you suffered greatly in your marriage. I -- and obviously many others -- are sorry for your difficulties and we want you to know that we admire you, remember you, send you our love and good wishes -- and hope life will only continue to improve for you. We want to see you prevail and have some real happiness.
We all need each other
Posted by Anonymous | Aug. 27, 2009 at 6:41 PM
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We come into this world alone and we leave it alone. In between, we need one another for support, love and compassion. This I send to you.
It's Never too late...
Posted by Claire | Aug. 27, 2009 at 8:45 PM
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...to because the authentic person you were meant to be. "George Eliot. Joan, I wish you the best. I think you have tried hard and well. You deserve success. God bless you and you future.
Alanon Might Help, Too
Posted by Claire | Aug. 27, 2009 at 9:17 PM
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This story made me sad for Joan Kennedy, such a difficult life and so much tragedy. I hope she will be able to return to AA and get the help she needs there to return to sobriety. As an adult child of alcoholics she would also find a great help in Alanon, an organization for the friends and families of alcoholics. Because of her upbringing, she sure does qualify. Prayers for this dear Lady.
I will NOT criticize the father of your children
Posted by Bridget | Aug. 27, 2009 at 9:21 PM
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God Bless you Joan, your children & grandchildren. You all are in my prayers. I will not give you any advice on your personal life as the posts that came before me have covered it all so beautifully...nor will I criticize the father of your children. It is not my place to judge. Just a simple "May God Bless You" & may the Blessed Mother watch over you.
Continue the Good Fight
Posted by Anonymous | Aug. 27, 2009 at 9:56 PM
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Never give up or give in Joan. You deserve happiness at this stage of your life. Continue to seek help from those who love you and you will succeed.
The Sacred and the secular cannot be separated.
Posted by Charles | Aug. 28, 2009 at 12:44 AM
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You continue to run the good race and fight the good fight. You do not sit in the front pew and receive Holy Communion from an Archbishop who defiles his faith. Your faith is true and will save your soul. All that matters in life is glorifying your all-forgiving Creator and dying in the state of grace. Unlike others you can raise your head high and finish your life Ad Majorem Dei Gloriam. Pray, ask forgiveness and salvation is yours.
Joy will come in the morning
Posted by Anonymous | Aug. 28, 2009 at 8:23 AM
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Of all who survive Teddy Kennedy, YOU are the first I think of and hold within my heart, Joan. Labels of "alcoholic" and "bipolar" are hurtful and misunderstood. You are just one fragile dear little "pony" who was given the challenge of carrying the load of a drafthorse in your life as a Kennedy. Hold up your beautiful face in the sunlight, Joan. Search for good friends take babysteps into the new decade. You deserve JOY!
Joy will come in the morning
Posted by Anonymous | Aug. 28, 2009 at 8:23 AM
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Of all who survive Teddy Kennedy, YOU are the first I think of and hold within my heart, Joan. Labels of "alcoholic" and "bipolar" are hurtful and misunderstood. You are just one fragile dear little "pony" who was given the challenge of carrying the load of a drafthorse in your life as a Kennedy. Hold up your beautiful face in the sunlight, Joan. Search for good friends take babysteps into the new decade. You deserve JOY!
Joan Kennedy
Posted by Patty | Aug. 28, 2009 at 9:44 AM
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all those pressures must have been so hard. My prayers are with you, Joan. I am battling the same disease...
Joan Kennnedy
Posted by Anonymous | Aug. 28, 2009 at 10:15 AM
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You are sadly one of Ted's and the Kennedy families horrible abuse of people in their lives....he publicly humilated you..we know that..be strong..show us you can survive..He must now answer to God...
I Am Praying For Your Recovery
Posted by Kitty | Aug. 28, 2009 at 11:43 AM
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I wasn't a spiritual person until God removed the bottle that I had clutched for 15 years from my hand; HE is the only ONE who could have done it, because I lived to drink! Everything in my life improved from that moment, and I believe that HE performed that miracle to show me, a non-believer until then, that HE is the ultimate recovery programmer. I thank HIM each morning for my deliverance, and while life still throws me some hard blows, I am SOBER and able to handle them. HE can do this for you too. I will ask for it in HIS name for you, dear lady! Keep the faith!
You have a lot to be proud of
Posted by Anonymous | Aug. 28, 2009 at 3:13 PM
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You seem like a beautiful, accomplished woman to me even though you tried to live up to what everyone else expected of you. Be true to yourself and find beauty in each day. Look forward, not back.
Peace
Posted by sarah | Aug. 28, 2009 at 5:33 PM
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I have always remembered you and hope that you will have a life for yourself. It is never too late. God bless you and your family. Love.
We remember you
Posted by sarah | Aug. 28, 2009 at 5:39 PM
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Dear Joan Kennedy, I have never forgotten you and your experencies I read about. I pray that you are having a good life and happiness.
You are better than Ted ever was!
Posted by Anonymous | Aug. 28, 2009 at 5:57 PM
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Dear Joan, I've read through all the postings before mine; and, I want you to know that every time I heard your ex-husband's name, you are the first person I thought about! He never deserved the place he has in history as "The Lion of the Senate"---his political career should have ended when Mary Jo's life ended and your public humiliation began because of his actions. I've lived in Massachusetts all my life and I will never understand the voters of this state that vote a Democratic ticket no matter what they do. You are a beautiful accomplished woman---stay that way and don't let them get you down.
ENCOURAGEMENT
Posted by MATTIE | Aug. 28, 2009 at 6:14 PM
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May The Spirit give you inner peace and the ability to love yourself so you can be free to love others. Use the music to help others... it will also help you.
God grant you the serenity
Posted by Kevin | Aug. 28, 2009 at 6:23 PM
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My thoughts and prayers are with you Joan. I have struggled with the disease of addiction for a long time and brought great worry to my family for years. I pray that you get the willingness to get back to meetings. I remember the first time I was getting sober in Boston you were at a meeting I went to. God bless you!
God, relieve her of bondage of self..
Posted by Anonymous | Aug. 28, 2009 at 6:46 PM
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take away her difficulties so that victory over them may bear witness to His existence in her life. May you continue to do His will
God Bless our disposable society...
Posted by Anonymous | Aug. 28, 2009 at 6:58 PM
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Disposable wife, disposable alcoholic, disposable homeless, disposable mentally challenged.
Keep your eyes on Jesus
Posted by Michele | Aug. 28, 2009 at 8:12 PM
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Joan, Child of God, keep your eyes on Jesus and make the devil your footstool...wonderful words of our beloved Abba Teclezghi, God rest his soul. Focus on the Lord and put Him first in your life...you will be the happiest you`ve ever been!!! God bless and keep you.......ACOA
Warm thoughts
Posted by Van | Aug. 28, 2009 at 10:20 PM
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I have been watching the coverage of senator Kennedy's life. He hasd done many good things for Massachusetts as well as the United States. I have been disappointed in the media and all the politicians who have failed to mention Joan Kennedy. She was a very important part of senator Kennedy's life. She campaigned for him while he was recovering from a plane crash, stood by him during hard times, and is the mother of his children. She deserves recognition and respect during this time of remembrance.
hang in there joan
Posted by Anonymous | Aug. 28, 2009 at 10:23 PM
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ted loved toy first you are the mother of his children men never forget their first loves , take your place in your childrens heritahe god bless ypu
God Has a Plan for You
Posted by Debbie | Aug. 29, 2009 at 1:58 AM
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Dear Joan, I've followed the Kennedy story and the lives of their spouses as far as back as I can remember. The vast majority of common-sense thinking people know the wives and children of the Kennedys have paid a huge price being members of this family. Nevertheless, God is on the throne, nothing has escaped His sight, and He will put everything that is wrong to right in His time. He has always had a plan for your life. May you look to Him, the true source of Life, for true peace, comfort and strength. You are worth it--His Son's death on the cross proves it. His Resurrection sealed your worth. He lives to give you life abundant no matter what this life has thrown at you.
Good thoughts & Prayers
Posted by Kevin | Aug. 29, 2009 at 3:36 AM
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Joan, you are in my thoughts and prayers with the hope that you will enjoy much success and hapiness. At the end of the day we are suppoed to be responsible for our lives but I honestly believ that Sen. Kennedy holds responsibility for so much of the devestation in your life. God Bless. Kevin
Joan
Posted by Anonymous | Aug. 29, 2009 at 5:42 AM
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I always thought of you as a gentle as you were a talented pianist.You will rise and be strong again once Ted Kennedy has gone.
joan
Posted by Anonymous | Aug. 29, 2009 at 8:30 AM
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HOW FORGOTTEN YOU SEEM TO BE. THE LOYAL , BEAUTIFIL, WIFE & MOTHER. STAY STRONG,GOD LOVES YOU AS I DO!
joan, mother of three
Posted by elizabeth | Aug. 29, 2009 at 10:12 AM
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Why don't I see your name in the media? Why do I have to "google" you to find out if you are still alive? Your are the mother of his three children, his wife of 24 years, his biological mate forever. Your role deserves much more recognition and status. hope you will be at the funeral with the kids. God bless.
May God give you serenity
Posted by Anonymous | Aug. 29, 2009 at 11:23 AM
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You are the only Kennedy that is worthy. God bless you.
Integrity and redemption
Posted by Judith | Aug. 29, 2009 at 11:30 AM
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As a mother facing divorce with three children to raise, I salute your integrity and strength in raising your own three lovely children. I pray and hope that you continue to work to bring music and beauty to this world, and find love and acceptance from those who know and love you, as once again you are put in the public eye.
 
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