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Oh, Behave! Here’s How
Tensions run high this time of year. Etiquette expert Jodi R.R. Smith (at right), president and founder of Salem’s Mannersmith, helps navigate some of the stickier situations.
By Terri Trespicio
Photo by Yeheshua Johnson
1. Every year my boss gets drunk and hits on me at the holiday party, and then “forgets” the next day. What should I do?
Once he’s on his second drink and showing the familiar signs, take off—and that goes for any situation in which your boss and alcohol are involved.
2. Whenever I see her, my sister loves to remark on how skinny I am. How do I get her to stop?
For backhanded compliments like this one, always use the same response: “Thank you! I try really hard.” She’ll eventually realize she’s been here before.
3. My neighbor throws the dullest holiday parties. How do I get out of it?
Etiquette requires you provide the regret, not the excuse. Keep it simple. Don’t lie about what you’re doing instead—it’ll just get you in trouble.
4. My newish relationship may not be built for the long term. How do I avoid an awkward gift exchange?
Drop him or her ASAP. Otherwise, suggest a $25 limit, which eases the pressure.
5. I’m Jewish, and every year my Protestant mother-in-law asks, “How could anyone not want to celebrate Christmas?”
Avoid a scene. Say, “I’m so happy I can be here with your family.” Then change the topic.
6. Is it better to show up late to a party or not at all?
My preference is to pick one party. But if you’re a social butterfly, let the host know when to expect you, or that you will be leaving at a certain time, so he doesn’t think you simply bailed.
7. I’m waiting for a parking spot at the mall when someone swoops in and snags it. What do I say?
You don’t. They won’t learn a lesson from you, so don’t attempt to teach one. Manners matter, but safety first.
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