Welcome to Splitsville

A guide to life after divorce.

By Alyssa Giacobbe and Rachel Slade


Photos by Joyce Lee. Styling by Anna Lee Wallack/Anchor Artists. On him, Tom Ford jacket, Loro Piana sweater, Brunello Cucinelli shirt, John Varvatos jeans, and Tumi bag, all Neiman Marcus Copley; bag, Bally. On her, Eskandar sweater, Rebecca Taylor shirt, Burberry pants, and Dior sunglasses, all Neiman Marcus Copley; bag, Bally.

The recession nearly killed the divorce industry around here, though that’s not saying much. We in Massachusetts tend to marry later, and thus have one of the lowest divorce rates in the country. But whatever splitting we were doing pretty much ground to a halt in 2008, when only two people per 1,000 broke their marriage bonds. Now that the economy’s rebounded, however, the unhappily married are once again taking care of business—the state’s divorce rate has jumped nearly 30 percent over the past five years, leaving more than 42,000 divorcees in Boston alone.

Of course, the biggest loss in a breakup often isn’t your partner. It’s your confidence. And so, for all of our brothers and sisters suddenly healing from the trauma of a legal rupture, we offer this post-divorce primer. From hawking your jewelry to finding a new look, here’s how to pick yourself up, knock off the dust, and get back in the game.



Rebranding, Part I

Take care of the body first, and the mind will follow.


Friend Me

Some will stay. Others will go. And that’s okay.


Rebranding, Part II

Pro advice on shaping your look, attitude, and budget.


Getting Some

Just getting back in the game? Here’s what happened while you were away.


Life Unchained

How to have fun without making a long-term commitment.

  • http://www.facebook.com/tom.lang.507 Tom Lang

    Oh how convenient…the five easy steps to put yourself back on track post divorce from the editors of Boston Magazine. Our society should help married couples stay together instead of looking at marriage as an inevitable temporary. Articles like this are part of the problem!

  • http://twitter.com/KayDoWe Kay Harris

    I agree with Tom however my husband didn’t and started his new life before disposing of his old one. He’s ‘very’ serious about his girlfriend now. He’s ‘in a stable relationship’ with her. Wow, really? Saying that to your wife? Best of luck with your one true love, douchebag. Our 6 and 8 year old kids will be better off without you. And these tips are great as I start off my new life… I’ve dropped 3 dress sizes along with a husband. http://dowehavetotellthekids.blogspot.com/

  • Chrisdee Bowman

    Agreed Tom; however, marriage takes two people to work on it. My ex moved in with his girlfriend and her seven year old son, before ending his marriage to me and our seven year old. Any person who would treat me and my child with such disrespect does not need to be married. We must move on, and the tips do help.

  • Jane Lawrense

    I quite agree with you. For many people it’s really difficult to start a new life after divorce, I myself experienced all this. I was terrified that I would never be happy any more…But then I decided that to sit and fust wait for something was not a way out, I decided to change everything, I decided to make myself happy. I registered on a dating website ( on https://kovla.com/datings/us/boston ) and to my surprise, very soon I found a man I fell in love with. And we are happy together now, So don’t give up and move on!