Ask a Wedding Expert: What Should I Know about Hiring a Wedding Band?

Hot Mess’s Jason Silverman breaks it down.

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Boston-based band Hot Mess. / Photo by Soundboarding Event Photography by JD Cohen

When it comes to planning your wedding, yes, finding the perfect venue—and delicious fare to go with it—is a must. What can truly make or break your celebration, though, is the music. Hire the right band and your guests will be on their feet all night long—and raving about the day for years to come. So how can you ensure you’re hiring the best group for your newlywed debut? We got the answer from Jason Silverman, founder, vocalist, MC, and coordinator of Boston-based cover band Hot Mess. Read on for his tips for finding an ensemble with both talent and expertise in spades.

The Question:

What should I know about hiring a wedding band?

Silverman’s Answer:

Picking the perfect wedding band is a bit more involved than some might realize. You’re not only hiring a group of talented musicians that sound amazing: You’re also looking to leverage years of wedding-day experience.

On the most important day of your life, you need to know that the industry professionals you hired are well-versed in the proper flow of a wedding. The band leader should serve as an additional point of contact during the planning process, working closely with you, your wedding coordinator, and your venue to ensure the timeline is strictly adhered to. And because of the band’s years of experience, they should be able to offer quick suggestions and an immediate action plan if unforeseen circumstances arise (for instance, an unexpected downpour 20 minutes before your beachfront reception). A reputable wedding band should also always have a number of references readily available.

When it comes to the actual music, sounding great is, of course, a given. The band should also be flexible with the playlist and help you create the perfect soundtrack. That soundtrack will not only build throughout the evening, but also shape those magical moments for you and your spouse from your ceremony to cocktail hour to the reception.

Lastly, make sure you do your research and don’t be afraid to ask questions! The right wedding band should not only capture the right vibe musically, but also set your mind at ease logistically.

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